A pattern of behavior that is used to get or maintain control over another person’s life. This includes emotional abuse, threats, manipulation, humiliation, physical or sexual acts, withholding money for one’s needs, isolating someone from other people, or controlling a person’s life in any way. See the list: http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/
Abuse takes place in homes, in dating relationships, in work situations, marriages and parent-child relationships, and more.
If you are experiencing any of the behaviors listed, please call National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) [or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)] or your local domestic violence center to talk with someone about it.
Abusers will continue to abuse. They will not stop if you try harder or love them more.
You can read about the Cycle of Violence at http://www.domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/.
For help in your area: http://www.thehotline.org/help/
A fantastic online resource can be found at: https://www.drugrehab.com/guides/domestic-abuse/
Are there laws that protect women and children from abuse?
YES! Find laws in your state, http://www.womenslaw.org/laws.php (This includes restraining orders, child custody and housing protections.
Helpful information for “Preventing Domestic Abuse Crimes”
NORTH CAROLINA RESOURCES
For North Carolina: http://nccadv.org or call (919) 956-9124.
The list of providers in the state is here: http://nccadv.org/get-help/programs-list and most of these have shelters, which would be a very important list for people to have who are looking for a safe place to go if they decide to leave their home/situation.
Programs and shelters in North Carolina: http://www.womenslaw.org/gethelp_state_type.php?type_id=1533&letter=A&state_code=NC
DULUTH MODEL POWER AND CONTROL WHEEL™
Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (DAIP) began in 1980 as an initiative to reform the criminal justice system in Duluth, Minnesota. At that time, victims of domestic violence had little recourse when being assaulted by their intimate partners. Perpetrators were rarely arrested unless the assault happened in front of an officer or the injuries sustained by the victim were serious. Choices for victims were limited—initiate criminal justice charges, endure the abuse or flee the relationship.
DAIP organizers—activists in the battered women’s movement—set out to understand the laws, policies and procedures of the criminal justice system, as well as understand the cultures of each of the involved agencies. In doing so, they built relationships that allowed new interventions to be proposed and tested. The results were strikingly effective in keeping batterers from continuing their abuse. Eventually, eleven community agencies agreed to continue to formally work together to continue to make positive change in the criminal justice system around battering. This effort became known as “The Duluth Model.”
The Duluth Model has evolved and changed over the last 40 years and has spread across the globe. DAIP continues to work toward ending violence against women through its programs in Duluth and in partnership with domestic violence practitioners around the world.